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“The Little Things”
When you hear these words, what comes to your mind? Little people…little towns…it could be referring to many different little things!
I would like to focus this study paper on the ‘little things’ that a husband may do for his wife…or the little things that a wife may do for her husband…the small, little things that family members may do for each other…or the small, insignificant things that we do for each other in our spiritual families…the little things that we may do in our neighborhoods…or in our communities!
A lot of little things will add up over time…and maybe, just maybe, they will add up to make something big. Does that make sense to you? In marriage, what positive ‘little things’ can we do to make it grow healthier every single day?
1 Pet 3:7-8 7 Likewise, you husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor (dignity, respect) unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered. (KJV) 8 Finally, all of you, live in harmony with one another; be sympathetic, love as brothers, be compassionate and humble. (NIV)
8 Finally, all of you be of one mind, having compassion for one another; love as brothers, be tenderhearted, be courteous; (NKJ)
From the above scriptures, some of the small things that we need to be doing are; (1) showing respect (2) being of one mind (3) having compassion and love for each other (4) being courteous (5) and having humility.
I heard an interesting sermon concerning marriage years ago, the individual I can’t name, but a certain part of what he said is still in my memory banks. This is proof that what we say does leave a lasting impression! Anyway, this person stated that our marriage covenant is like a bank account…it has deposits…and it has withdrawals.
Let me ask you a simple question…which would you prefer to have more of? Deposits? Withdrawals? Deposits of course, and with interest! Agreed!
Everything that we do or say within a marriage, is either a deposit or withdrawal!
Our marriage accounts need to be ever growing, never diminishing in any way!
The following is not a book in the Scriptures…but if I had written one, what the following states would have been a major theme I’m quite sure of!
Should-do 4:3-4 3 Husbands and wives, please don’t criticize one another, but instead tell each other every day, more than once if possible, but at least once, that you LOVE each other. 4 Do kind things for each other, you husbands, open doors for your weaker vessel, and you wives, make good things for our stomach’s sake, and we need help with our appearance, our wardrobe is in your hands!
The same goes for our physical and spiritual families. We need to be doing a lot of small things for each other, and again, hopefully, they will all add up to much larger things!
In our society today, ‘self- esteem’ is emphasized in just about everything, and I agree that we must ‘like ourselves, and feel good about ourselves’…to some degree…but I feel that this attitude has gone off the deep end! In Greek, the word “I” is ego, isn’t that interesting? The word “esteem” can mean glory. Let me ask you…Do we want self-glory? Do we want or need the “I, ME, MY” attitude? Is it scriptural?
Phil 2:3-4 3 Let nothing be done through strife or vain glory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem (i.e. consider, think of) others better than themselves. (KJV) 4 Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others. (NIV)
“vainglory” ~ 2754 ~ kenodoxia- (Thayer’s)
1) vain glory, groundless self, empty pride, esteem. 2) a vain opinion, error.
“I”~ 1473 ~ ego- (Thayer’s) I, me, my!!!
We should not want to be ‘worshipped’, nor should we want to be ‘esteemed’ (glorified) for our ‘appearance’, our ‘intelligence’, nor for how much we may ‘help others’! It’s perfectly alright to look good in our appearance…but not for the purpose of getting others to look at us! And it is perfectly alright to increase our intelligence, it’s a very good thing, but again not for the purpose of getting others to look our way! The same can be said about helping others! Let’s investigate the Scriptures!
Romans 12:3 For I say, through the grace that was given me, to every man (or woman) who is among you, not to think of himself (or herself) more highly than he (or she) ought to think; but to think reasonably, as Elohim (God) has apportioned to each person a measure of faith. (WEB)
The Pharisees and the Scribes made a show at ‘looking to be righteous’…their appearance, their prestige, their prayers, their tithing. We are to do some of these, yes, we are to pray and tithe, but not to be seen by others when we do them!
Matthew 23:5-7 5 And all their works (the scribes and Pharisees) they do to be seen of men: for they make broad their phylacteries and enlarge the borders of their garments, (DBY) 6 And the things desired by them are the first places at feasts, and the chief seats in the Synagogues, (BBE) 7 and the salutations in the marketplaces, and to be called of men, Rabbi. (ASV)
You can read and see for yourself how they prayed long prayers and tithed to be seen by others, they wanted to look good on the outside but were lacking inwardly!
Matthew 23:27 Woe unto you, Scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! You are like white-washed sepulchers. They look beautiful without, but within they are filled with dead men's bones and all rottenness. (MNT)
Matthew 5:20 For I say to you, that unless your righteousness exceeds the righteousness of the scribes and Pharisees, you will by no means enter the kingdom of heaven. (NKJV)
The religious approach of these individuals, we should avoid like the plague, for obvious reasons! They apparently were seeking salvation through and by their works…a wrong thing to do! We do need good works, but they will not save us! Salvation is a gift!
Besides the little and the good things that we have discussed so far, what else can we do, what else should we do?
James 1:27 The religious service which is pure and stainless in the sight of our Elohim (God) and Father is to visit fatherless children and widowed women in their time of trouble, and to keep one's own self unspotted from the world. (WNT)
Our little fellowship saw the Pharisaical attitudes within our previous organization, they were not doing these little things. We would read scriptures like the one above, but we did not see it practiced. We would listen to a video on being friendly, but friendliness wasn’t practiced! We aren’t judging them, scriptures tell us to judge the fruits…and that’s exactly what we did!
Judgement will come from above, we definitely don’t judge our brothers and sisters in any other organization! We do try and walk a better walk today. Like I mentioned about our previous organization, I know of widows, yes, more than one, who were not taken care of before they breathed their last, and there are widows today who are not being taken care of as they should, LIKE THE SCRIPTURE IN JAMES TELLS US ABOVE!
Each assembly should be taking care of their widows and needy! Our little group does help a widow who attends our former organization…she lives on less than 700 dollars a month…and yes, everything comes out of that 700 dollars, rent, food, utilities, prescriptions and whatever else is needed! The least we could do is provide some relief! We don’t visit orphans…but we do have a prison ministry…sending free books…and study papers to help them through their trials! In a sense, they have been orphaned!
We don’t do these little things to be seen of men…we do them because we see the need…and we interpret the Scriptures as saying; “This do!” In our community, once a month we will give can goods to the YWCA in our area, they cater to those in need…and we will give to the Food Bank as well…and we will do other small, little things along the pathway to the Kingdom! We don’t seek to be esteemed, no, we do them because it shows love for others!
Matthew 6:1 Take care not to do your good works before men, to be seen by them; or you will have no reward from your Father in heaven. (BBE)
This is pretty plain and simple…we do little things because we are told to do them and not for recognition, or for prestige either! If we are faithful in doing them, and don’t tire or grow weary, our reward will come when our Savior returns!
2 Thessalonians 3:13 But you, brothers (and sisters), do not be weary (do not tire and lose heart) in well doing. (MKJV)
Brothers and sisters, may all of our little things add up to much bigger things. Our nation and our world are hurting, there are a lot in need! Hopefully our small, minute, little things, will help make this world a better place for someone, and we just may get to meet that ‘someone’ in the Kingdom! Wouldn’t that be great?
Proverbs 8:17-21 17 I love them that love me; And those that seek me diligently shall find me. (ASV) 18 Riches and honor are with me; durable wealth and righteousness. (DBY) 19 My fruit is better than gold, even than the best gold; and my increase is more to be desired than silver. (BBE) 20 I lead in the way of righteousness, in the midst of the paths of judgment; (MKJV) 21 That I may give wealth to those who love me. I fill their treasuries. (WEB)
Revelation 22:12 Behold, I come quickly; and my reward is with me, To give to each man what his actions (their little things!) merit. (MNT)
I would now like to end with another ‘little’ poem by my ‘little’ soul mate…may it uplift you, and brighten your day!
“The Little Things”
How happy are you? I know how happy I am, Because I know where my real treasure lies! I try not to cloud my mind with too many things, I look for rainbows of promise and the blue skies.
I’m so blessed to have a husband, Who loves me with all his heart. We spend quality time together as we can, It’s not too often we are apart.
I love to hear my husband pray, He truly says what’s on his mind! It’s wonderful when two minds can join as one, A special joy I feel inside, true peace I find.
We love our children and grandchildren, And all of our very dear friends. The little things in life truly make us happy! And with this poem our love we send. (RIW ~ 12/18/04)
May Yahweh Bless ~ our little things in life! DLW
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